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By Shawnda P. Burns, LMHC, CAP
This is a difficult question that many parents have to face
on a daily basis. Parents who spend a great deal of time
with their teenagers are often tuned into what is normal
behavior and what is not. However, even parents who are
actively involved in the daily activities of their teenagers
may overlook - or subconsciously deny - the earliest signs
of a substance abuse problem.
Some of the clues that your teenager may
exhibit when using drugs or alcohol are fairly subtle, but
others are rather obvious:
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Many hours spent alone, especially in
their room; persistent isolation from the rest of the
family. This is particular suspicious in a youngster who
had not been a loner until now.
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Resistance to taking with or
confiding in parents, secretiveness, especially in a
teenager who had previously been open. Be sure that your
teenager is not being secretive because every time he
tries to confide in you, you jump on him or break his
confidence.
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There is marked change for the worse
in performance and attendance at school and/or job or
other responsibilities as well as in dress, hygiene,
grooming, frequent memory lapses, lack of concentration,
and unusual sleepiness.
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A change of friends; from acceptable
to unacceptable.
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Pronounced mood swings with
irritability, hostile outbursts, and rebelliousness.
Your teenager may seem untrustworthy, insincere or even
paranoid.
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Lying , usually in order to cover up
drinking or drug using behavior as well as sources of
money and possessions; stealing, shoplifting, or
encounters with the police.
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Abandonment of wholesome activities
such as sports, social service and other groups,
religious services, teen programs, hobbies, and even
involvement in family life.
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Unusual physical symptoms such as
dilated or pinpoint pupils, bloodshot eyes, frequent
nosebleeds, changes in appetite, digestive problems,
excessive yawning, and the shakes.
These are just a few of the warning signs
that can be recognized. Be careful not to jump to the
conclusion that your teenager may be using when you see such
behavior. Evaluate the situation. Talk to your teenager. Try
to spend time with her so that she feels that she can trust
you. By creating a home that is nurturing, she will
understand that despite of unhealthy choices that she will
always get the love and moral support that she deserves.
Building a strong relationship with your teenager now will
mean that in time of crises your love, support, wisdom, and
experience won't be shut out of your teenager's decision
making. If you have a suspicion that your teenager is
involved in the use of drugs or alcohol, don't hesitate to
bring the subject up. The sooner the problem is identified
and treated, the better the chances that your teenager's
future will be safeguarded. Raising the subject will be
easier if you already have good communication in the family.
Discuss the ways in which you can seek help together. An
evaluation by a substance abuse professional may be the key
to understanding what is really going on with your teenager.
Shawnda P. Burns is a licensed mental health counselor and a
certified addictions professional who practices at A Place
For Growth in Weston. For a free 30 minute consultation or
more information you can reach her at 954-257-6393 or email
at
shawnda@aplaceforgrowth.com.
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