Parent Resources for Teen Help: Frequently Asked Questions
- Who and what is P.U.R.E.™?
- Why use P.U.R.E.™ services?
- How does P.U.R.E.™ work and what is its purpose?
- What is the average cost of residential schools and programs?
- Where are the schools and programs located? Should we visit a school we are considering?
- My child has already been in therapy, how can residential programs help?
- Should I tell my teen we are looking at programs? He/she is not willing to go. I have read all these horror stories online about transports, so how do we find a reputable one?
- Will my teen be around kids that are worse than him/her? Will my teen be around bad kids?
- Are military schools for troubled teens? What about boot camps?
- Are there free programs?
- How is P.U.R.E.™ funded?
- How do we get started?
1. Who and what is P.U.R.E.™?
P.U.R.E.™ is an organization which offers parents resources about residential therapy for pre-teens and teens. We educate parents about researching schools and programs online and learning more about the teen help industry. Since 2001 we’ve been assisting families in this big business of teen help. When parents are most vulnerable, they are most at-risk at making rash decisions.
P.U.R.E.™ was founded by a parent who was duped online years ago while searching for a school for her daughter. During this time, there was a feeling of loss, desperation, and confusion.
With this, there is a need for a service as P.U.R.E.™ to help parents know they are not alone. P.U.R.E.™ is here to help sort through the confusion during a desperate time as well as determine internet fact vs. internet fiction.
2. Why use P.U.R.E.™ Services?
Since 2001, P.U.R.E.™ has dedicated their service to locate licensed, accredited, and qualified programs and schools. We are constantly researching (including visiting programs personally) and taking the time to listen to parent and student feedback. Firsthand experience is a valuable tool for learning about programs and schools.
Let’s face it, with the expansion of the internet, anyone can create a beautiful website for their school or program, but how do you know it truly exists?
P.U.R.E.™ believes that being overwhelmed and confused can cause errors in the placement of your child. Being an educated parent can help you make an informed decision.
There are many websites that are dedicated to frightening parents. Many are created by former students that were placed in programs decades ago. We can help alleviate your fears without diminishing their experiences. As a parent that had a child harmed in a program, and successfully won in a court of law substantiating the neglect and fraud, there are ways to decipher people’s opinions (maybe disgruntled parents) to actual events. We help educate you.
P.U.R.E.™ has been featured on Dr. Phil, Today Show, CNN, Anderson Cooper, The Mel Robbins Show, Rachael Ray Show, Katie Couric, CBS Nightly News, 20/20 ABC, CBS Early Show, Fox News, Lifetime, and many more.
3. How does P.U.R.E.™ work and what is its purpose?
Our purpose is to educate parents on an industry that is extremely confusing, especially as you enter it for the first time. When dealing with a struggling teen, parents usually will turn to the internet for resources and are quickly bombarded with tons of ads, sales reps, and confusing jargon stating they can save your teenager. Sorting through internet facts and fiction can be overwhelming.
Selecting a private boarding school for your child is a very important decision and we believe you should be armed with as much information as possible, so that is what we want to give you: reliable and factual information from firsthand experiences and research.
There are some teen behaviors are are unable to assist parents with. Read more.
4. What is the average cost of residential schools and programs?
The costs vary depending upon which school or program you choose for your child. Qualified programs can start at about $8000.00 per month. In some cases, your medical insurance may cover a portion of a therapeutic boarding school (TBS) or residential treatment center (RTC). PPO only has been the only type of insurance that has been accepted at some programs. Most schools/programs will run a verification of benefits (VOB) for you to determine what your policy will cover for you. IEP’s have also been accepted at some programs as partial payment for the educational component.
If you have an adopted child through a foster-care system, you may want to check with your social worker. In many states they have financial resources available to you and a list of residential programs that they will cover.
Most military and traditional boarding schools start at $25,000 annually. Please note these are not for troubled teens.
The majority of TBS/RTC offer educational loans to assist families with tuition. They are very similar to college loans.
See our Financial Options page.
5. Where are schools and programs located? Should we visit a school we are considering?
There are locations throughout the United States. We do encourage parents not to restrict the search to a limited geographical area. Finding the most appropriate fit for your child may require travel. We help you understand that it’s best not to select a program on geographic locations, but rather on your child’s emotional needs. This is only a short time out of their entire life – let’s make it what is in their best interest, not the convenience of your travels.
Keep in mind each state’s age of majority, the age at which your child has the ability to sign themselves out of a program. In some states, such as Florida, the age is 16. We can discuss other states with you.
Ideally, it is great to visit a school or program you are considering for your teen. Realistically, however, time or financial constraints prohibit families from touring a program prior to placing their teen.
We encourage you to speak with parent references and students who have graduated the program. We also suggest calling the local sheriff’s department to ask their opinion of the program and/or if there have been many incidents there. They can’t always share incident reports, but will sometimes give you an idea of their feelings regarding the program. You never know who answers the phone.
These are some ways to get a good pulse on a program, especially if you are unable to visit. If a program won’t give you parent references, this can be a red flag. Read more in our help tips.
6. My child has already been in therapy, how can residential programs help?
Most teens have already exhausted their weekly one-on-one sessions at home and have concluded that it didn’t help them. Why? In many cases, it is because they are still coming back to their home environment and peer group. When the teen is physically removed from their comfort zone, they will finally be able to open up completely to identify where this negative behavior is stemming from.
At home, it seems to be escalating in a vicious cycle, so it is time to get off that bus and get help. In a program that is about bringing the family back together, they should incorporate you all as your teen begins to heal.
7. Should I tell my teen we are looking at programs? He/she is not willing to go. I have read all these horror stories online about transports, how do we find a reputable one?
You are about make a decision to give them a second opportunity at a positive future. They are not in their right mind to understand that — yet.
Most teens are not willing to attend, and that is normal. This is why there are legitimate transport services that are licensed and insured to transport your teen safe and sound.
The internet is full of deceptive information and horrors stories of all kinds. When selecting a transport service be sure you get parent references and speak to people that have used their services as well as always asking for a copy of their credentials.
8. Will my teen be around kids that are worse than him/her? Will my teen be around bad kids?
Please review teens that are our of our scope, that need more intensive care here.
There are many sales reps (aka place specialists) out there ready to place your child simply to increase their numbers and/or collect a commission. P.U.R.E.™, on the other hand, is about educating the parent to understand how to determine what is the best fit for each individual child and family, both emotionally and financially.
9. Are military schools for troubled teens? What about boot camps?
Absolutely not! Military schools are a privilege and an honor to attend. If you are threatening to send your teen to a military school, it is an empty threat. If you do happen to find a school that will accept him/her and they get expelled, there is a good chance that you will end up forfeiting your tuition.
Boot Camps are short-term programs with very limited (if any) success. In our opinion, we never recommend or suggest boot camps. Teens usually come home with more anger and resentment, commonly targeted at the person who placed them there.
Contrary to quality residential therapy, where programs build a child up, boot camps are usually punitive and primitive. This is not conducive to helping your teen gain the confidence to make better choices.
10. Are there free programs?
11. How is P.U.R.E.™ funded?
P.U.R.E.™ is funded by several schools and programs as well as private funding. Sue Scheff, founder of P.U.R.E., is a national public speaker, author and spokesperson for ReputationDefender.
Our motto is: Bringing families back together…
12. How do we get started?
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Founder of P.U.R.E. talks to Your Teen for Parents: