My 17 Year Old Teen Son Needs Help
Be an educated parent
We are bombarded on a daily basis with parents that are at their wit’s end with their almost — adult at 17+ years old.
You will quickly notice that many schools or programs will not accept 17+ year-old’s, usually because they won’t have enough time to work with them. I respect these programs for this. They’re not giving you false hope.
The reality is, if you are considering a school or program that is traditionally 9-12 months long, yet you have less than 5 months until your teenager turns 18, you could be setting yourself up for a major financial loss — and worse, your teen up for failure.
Use caution if a school or program is quick to accept you, but has a modality that is much longer than when your child turns 18. Remember, as we warn parents, the teen help industry is a big business, don’t get scammed by sales people, many are now calling themselves, placement specialists.
Don’t get stung
Be careful not to get stung by the short-term programs such as wilderness that may or may not provide results. These can be extremely expensive and rarely will be successful unless your teen goes on to a therapeutic boarding school.
In most cases your teen will be 18 and will decide not to take the next step to residential therapy or walk-out (since they can at 18). In speaking with many families that have taken the journey down this road, they don’t recommend it. Wilderness programs have been considered short-term programs that yielded short-term results.
There is help
There are teen help programs that are targeted at 17+ year old’s where their length of stay is about 6-8 months. So if your son is on the younger side of 17, they will be able to finish the complete program and flourish.
With 17+ year-old’s — it’s important to realize that in most states it’s a right of a child, where they can sign themselves out at 17. There are only a few states that they can be placed and they won’t be able to leave without a parent’s consent.
Life Skill Programs for Young Adult Teen Boys
There are also young adult programs you can learn more about. These are excellent programs that incorporate life-skills as well as emotional growth and academics. Some also include mentor-ship programs for those young adults that might be inspired by different trades.
Life Skills Programs for young adults (18-30) years old can offer the following ways to help stimulate your child in a positive direction and give them a second opportunity at bright future:
- Therapy through emotional growth. A young adult displaying a level of resistance to school or work will need to address the underlying causes in therapy. This is sometimes easier after leaving the comforts of their home environment outside peer influences.
- Building encouragement through a positive peer environment. Expressing frustration and anger with your child will likely make them feel worse and increase failure to launch behaviors.
- Structure. Help your young adult find the right balance between staying busy and having down time.
- Goal setting through mentorship and internship programs.
- Accountability through basic life skills of chores, hygiene, financial literacy, culinary skills, healthy diet decisions and more.
- Enrichment programs that can range from caring for animals, woodshop, landscaping, farming, arts and music, community volunteer work, gardening and more.
- Education – from finishing high school to starting college classes or enrolling in vocational training, every student has an opportunity to learn.
Life Skills Program can equip your child with coping skills to deal with adversity and change that real-life can throw at them, as well as help students identify who they are by what they can do, rather than what they have done.
Please contact us for more information on 17+ teen programs and young adult programs.